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Apr 26, 2023

'Cousin orders I dye my ginger hair as her bridesmaid

A woman has taken to Reddit to share how her cousin is ordering her to dye her

A woman has taken to Reddit to share how her cousin is ordering her to dye her natural ginger hair for her wedding day because she doesn't like how it looks against her bridesmaid dresses

A bridesmaid has been left outraged after being ordered to dye her ginger hair for her cousin's wedding because it 'clashes with the colour scheme'. She explained how she naturally has "strawberry blonde" hair and says she doesn't do anything to it to make it any brighter than it already is.

But her cousin wants her to dye it a "dark brown colour" regardless because 'ginger doesn't go with her blue, green and purple bridesmaid dresses'. And now, the debate has gotten so out of hand that she's decided to drop out of the wedding.

Taking to Reddit, the woman said: "[My cousin], Amy, demands that everyone sticks to her dress code or they will be barred by security at the damn door.

"She asked me to dye my ginger hair. She has also asked anyone with hair past their waist to cut it in a Facebook post but it got no replies. I can't think of anyone except me and maybe my sister with super long hair. My mum and dad are both way more ginger than me and my sister, who is eight months pregnant.

"[My sister's] hair is not much shorter than mine and is super ginger, and Amy never asked her to touch her hair? if anything I got the dull hair gene."

Despite this, Amy continued to demand she changes her hair colour, saying she could wear a wig if she didn't want to use chemicals on her locks.

"After things went south she decided to try to 'negotiate' with me, she added. "My mum and dad called round a few days back to talk about it but got absolutely nowhere with her as she's still insisting I dye my hair a dark brown for the day or get a wig."

Fed up with how she was being spoken to, the woman thanked Amy for the invite but said she wouldn't be attending her special day.

She said: "My aunt, Amy's mum, called to apologise to me and asked me to please come but I don't feel welcome.

"Can you imagine attending a wedding where the bride stares daggers at you the whole time - and what if the security refuse to let me in?

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"I paid for my dress so I don't owe her anything but our families are so upset that I'm dropping out.

"But if I go I have no choice except to dye my hair as there never was a compromise or middle ground, it was dye it, buy a short brown bob wig or don't come.

"She specified it has to be a short brown bob wig for some reason."

Commenting on her post, one user said: "I have no idea how they think a short wig is going to hide your hair, it'll be like wearing a little brown fez on top of your normal hair."

Another user added: "Your hair is beautiful and honestly I think she's probably jealous of your hair which is why she wants you to change it."

A third user said: "You have beautiful hair and she has no right to demand that you dye your hair. It was and still is completely unreasonable.

"For whatever reason she has a grudge against you or your hair. If you can not feel comfortable and welcome, it's better to not go."

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